More Linds lately...

I have seriously been slacking the month of May! I can’t even recall what I have been doing. Then again when I look back on my calendar I’ve had like 5 different events over the course of the month so I guess I have been pretty busy. I coordinated the Indianapolis 500 Festival: Mini- Marathon Expo.  Which was pretty exciting. I worked with a great client which is always helpful.

Let me give you a little update on what has been going on in my life. I finally decided to join a gym (clearly P90X was a failure) I did it for about 6 weeks but wasn't seeing the results I wanted. So now I'm just calorie counting and trying to work out as much as possible. My sister and I are supposed to be doing a competition to see who can lose the most weight by my birthday. Which is like a month away. I CANNOT LOSE!

My girlfriend, Caitlin was in town the past few weeks. She was helping her father with his campaigning. He is a Democratic Judge (he won!!) She invited me to go to the Aziz Ansari stand-up comedy show. It was hilarious. We were really good friends from like 4th grade - Sophomore year. But we went to different high schools and sorta drifted apart. But it is always good to see her and catch up. We also went to BRU Burger on Mass Ave. It was AMAZING! I Didn't even get a hamburger. I can't wait to go back and get one though. We also got a few drinks at Front Page Sports Bar & Grill. Which played AMAZING music!

But I really need to sit down somewhere. The very next weekend my best guy friend & I took a trip down to Atlanta. Which turned out to be amazing. But it usually always is! We drove down there Friday & got back Monday morning (was late for work of course. smh) Here are a few pics from the wknd. He took me to Tin Lizzie's Cantina & I got Nachos that were to die for! #yum I forget the club we went to on Friday but of course Saturday we went to Noni's and were turnt up... per usual. I went there last time I went to visit and had a great time. If you ever get down there you should def check out both places. I lovee this city but not sure I would ever want to live there. If you can't tell I got my highlights redone!

What else has been going on in my life? at work we had an 'Employee Appreciation' Day & played like field day type events (football throw/40 yard dash) I got 3rd place for 35 and under in the football throw & I tied for 1st in the 40Yr Dash. I ran a 5.9 (in someone elses shoes & Dress slacks) then we had a tie breaker and my coworker beat me (but it was her shoes I was wearing the first time...) So I feel like we should have a rematch. Anyways it was pretty fun! And since I placed I received two half days off of work! YES!

This past weekend was the Indy 500. I went for the first time ever (crazy huh? living in Indiana all my life) My coworkers and my girlfriend Brittany and I went. It got pretty crazy at an early hour. But it was fun. I'm glad I got to experience it at least once in my life. Was supppper hot though.

Dude, my summer is soo jam packed! I work this weekend. Next weekend in Chicago for one of my besties bdays. Then the next weekend (fingers crossed) will be in DC. Then the wknd after if my 25th birthday wknd. Thennnn for like the entire month of July I have three different events. Then right after my LA/VEGAS/ATL trip! Can't wait. But that is basically my ENTIRE Summer. Here are 10 reasons why you SHOULD travel!

So here is an update on how my 25 by the time i turn 25 is going. (pretty much a failure) : / I have a month left to get.it.together.

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I will leave you with some Link Lovin'

- No Church In the Wild (video)

- Man accused of using a water cup for Pop. : / I DO THIS ALL THE TIME!

- We all need this: a few pointers on how to eliminate drama!

- You know it is swimsuit season... make sure you clean up ladies! (and some fellas) DIY: Wax

- Jay-Z Supports Gay Marriage... What is your take?

- A few reasons why it is OK to be boring
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- I know I am late but Happy Mother's Day. "Last Mother's Day"

- Summer is here, if you are like me you will be putting your hair up: The Perfect Side Pony Tail.

Welp that is all I have for you today. I hope you enjoy and have a wonderful HUMP day!

xo

Courage is an angel that makes the difference between a good life and a great life.

- Fairly Legal

Love, Dad

In June of 1971, just days before his 26-year-old son, Michael, got married, future-U.S. President Ronald Reagan sent him the following letter of advice. It really is quite stunning.

(Source: Reagan: A Life In Letters; Image: Ronald Reagan, via.)

Michael Reagan
Manhattan Beach, California
June 1971

Dear Mike:

Enclosed is the item I mentioned (with which goes a torn up IOU). I could stop here but I won't.

You've heard all the jokes that have been rousted around by all the "unhappy marrieds" and cynics. Now, in case no one has suggested it, there is another viewpoint. You have entered into the most meaningful relationship there is in all human life. It can be whatever you decide to make it.

Some men feel their masculinity can only be proven if they play out in their own life all the locker-room stories, smugly confident that what a wife doesn't know won't hurt her. The truth is, somehow, way down inside, without her ever finding lipstick on the collar or catching a man in the flimsy excuse of where he was till three A.M., a wife does know, and with that knowing, some of the magic of this relationship disappears. There are more men griping about marriage who kicked the whole thing away themselves than there can ever be wives deserving of blame. There is an old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in it. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out. Sure, there will be moments when you will see someone or think back to an earlier time and you will be challenged to see if you can still make the grade, but let me tell you how really great is the challenge of proving your masculinity and charm with one woman for the rest of your life. Any man can find a twerp here and there who will go along with cheating, and it doesn't take all that much manhood. It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music. If you truly love a girl, you shouldn't ever want her to feel, when she sees you greet a secretary or a girl you both know, that humiliation of wondering if she was someone who caused you to be late coming home, nor should you want any other woman to be able to meet your wife and know she was smiling behind her eyes as she looked at her, the woman you love, remembering this was the woman you rejected even momentarily for her favors.

Mike, you know better than many what an unhappy home is and what it can do to others. Now you have a chance to make it come out the way it should. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.

Love,

Dad

P.S. You'll never get in trouble if you say "I love you" at least once a day.

(Via: The Daily What & Letters of Note)

The Voice

Today is National No Socks Day! I am taking full advantage of this! :)

I have really been slacking lately on posting. I have just been so busy at work and trying to just enjoy life the past few weeks. A lot has been going on that could easily hold me down and I’m just trying not to let it. Therefore, I don’t want to just harbor all those feelings and emotions into my blog. I want to keep this fun, informative, and positive.

Speaking of Informative make sure you go VOTE today! So important. You cannot complain about politicians or the economy if you do nothing about it. Please let your voice be heard. That is all.

This past weekend I spent Saturday, Cinco De Mayo, in Chicago with some of my besties from college #boilerup. Seriously majority of my friends from college live in Chicago! Bla. I have NEVER had an urge to live in that city but being there with them and seeing them made me miss them so much. We all always have such an amazing time together. Miss them. (XO) we went to a BYOB Hookah bar, Arabia, which of course led us to all buying rounds of shots at, The Frontier. Never a dull moment with these ladies.

Sadly, today is the last episode of ‘The Voice’ who do you think will be the winner? Every episode until yesterday’s I wanted Juliet Simms to win. I love her style, her voice, and just her period. But yesterday Tony Lucca won over my heart. Bla! I just don’t know. I can’t wait to watch it this evening.

-          Adam Levine & Tony Lucca – “Yesterday”

-          Juliet Simms – “Freebird”

-          Tony Lucca – “99 Problems” (Christina had soo much to say about this. Womp! He did amazing. I’m glad Adam put her in her place)

-          Chris Mann – “You Raise Me Up” although, I don’t believe well hope he doesn’t win he still sounds amazing!

Link Lovin’ time!

Did you see any pics from the Met Gala? Everyone looked amazing. Esp Beyonce! She continually and frequently sh!ts on everyone lives! Here is Elements of Style review of the red carpet.

A pretty interesting article on ‘Why Black Women are Fat’.  

The Huffington Post posted an article on 30 things women should know… by the time they are 30. Def. worth a read. 

5 steps on making tough decisions. This might help.

Are you a ‘Boomerang kid’? Nothing wrong with that, I am! What are your thoughts on this article/topic?

To piggyback off the topic above, have you ever lived alone? Pros/cons? This will be my next move. I can’t really stand having “roommates”

Bla! I feel like this kind of isn’t okay.

Women in music: Top beauty icons.

This should keep you busy for awhile!

PS. Do you know any good stir fry or French toast recipes? Lol. Random I know but I want to make both.

Have a great rest of the week!
XO

- Sophie Kinsella

If I’ve learned one lesson from all that’s happened to me, it’s that there is no such thing as the biggest mistake of your existence. There’s no such things as ruining your life. Life’s a pretty resilient thing, it turns out.

Never give up!

Via 

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!


 With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.


 In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. 


My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. 

My girlfriend Kristel & her husband Jason

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. 


On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. 

via

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband…. The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. 

Happy Friday: Some Nights

Happy Friday!

My zodiac today states

You can relax at last! The time is perfect to get ready for the challenges that up to now were just anxieties inside you. If you're thinking clearly today, Cancer, it's because you have the strength to face your problems. Now that you have your self-confidence back, you might open your heart even wider to someone dear.

I know people think horoscopes & zodiac signs are silly. but I am a firm believer. I don't know why I just am :)

This has been a very long, draining, frustrating week for me. I have been planning Indiana Early Childhood Conference which began Thursday and ends Saturday. But not only this I have been planning 3 other events that move in next week. On top of that I feel as though my life is in shambles. Slowly but surely I am gaining control. More importantly regaining control of my own happiness. Which at no fault other than my own has been put in the hands of someone else. What makes people happy?

I came across this little quote this week and it is sooo true. And so everything in my life right now. I just need time and space for myself. I'm really in a bad place right now. But this too shall pass. I just need to focus on the bigger picture and not try and understand every detail just accept things as they are and for what they are and move forward. Somethings you just cannot control. But your own happiness IS something you can control. I read a tweet this week that said, "We have no right to ask when a sorrow comes, 'Why did this happen to me?' unless we ask the same question for every joy that comes out way." I have soo much more to be joyful in my life than this misfortune. Soo enough of that... I don't want to bore you too much so we shall move on. I'm super excited for Friday (even though I work tomorrow, WOMP) & of course the sun is shining!! I think I will go on a little adventure this weekend. :)))

Anywho, I went to the Pacer's vs. Bulls game with one of my best friends, Antoine, on Wednesday. We had a great time. (We always do) Which will lead into a topic I will touch next week sometime. I super excited the Pacer's are in the playoff!s!!! #NAPTOWN. Just in case you don't know here is the playoff schedule.

Some weekend link lovin...

There are still genuinly good people in the world.

Awesome People Hanging Together, one of my fav Tumblr's.

LOVE this! Justin Timberlake, Ryan Gosling & Jc Chasez singing 'Cry For You'.

Some words worth reading from Tina Fey's book Bossypants.

Rolling Stones, Can drinking make you a Conservative?

4 Things The Hunger Games can teach us on the war on women.

Lessons from an Imperfect Love Life... We could all use some tips.

I lovee me some Spanx. the creator is now a billionare!

I love to see this. One of my classmates from Purdue still giving back!

5 moves to blast that belly fat ladies!

I seriously cannot stop posting pics of my girlfriend, Kristel's little baby girl. I love her so much and haven't even met her yet! <333

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend filled with new adventures! Here is some music to get it started!!

Fun - Some Nights

Xo

Only way to grow...

Excuse my absence. I had to take some time to really think about what I was going to say. At first I was not going to speak on the subject but then I guess if my blog is titled ‘More Linds’ I have to really dig down and give you more of myself. Or I should say give more of me, to myself. If that makes sense. I’m still not going to go into complete detail of recent events but yea.

I could pull one of my quotes out from my 45 page word document of sayings, quotes, and favorite lyrics. But I am just going to use one of the more recent ones I have come across from last weeks episode of Grey’s Anatomy. Meredith really nailed it on the head with this one.

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  “It's one of those things that people say, you can't move on until you let go of the past. Letting go is the easy part, it's the moving on that's painful. So sometimes we fight it, try and keep things the same. Things can't stay the same though. At some point, you just have to let go. Move on. Because no matter how painful it is, it's the only way we grow.”

I really wish I did not live in never never land. I seriously sometimes have no grasp on reality. I wish/hope things to go one way and they hardly ever do. And this is not just in relationships or situations. This is an everyday thing for me. It stresses me out when things don’t go perfectly out how I have them planned in my head. And although I do always bounce back it does affect me greatly. As I try and change and to think more logically I seriously wonder if I even have a brain sometimes.(sad but true)  I def. walk and see through the eyes in my heart not the ones in my head. At times I wish I was different but other times I do not because it really does make me who I am. And yes, change is good but I don’t want to be cold hearted. Maybe I just need a better balance of the two.

I had a friend tell me once (and forgive me I can’t remember the exact words) they would rather be in a situation with the mind rather than just the heart. This is clearly where I am at. It is just unhealthy and has been for a long time. But then again this person also called me insane I guess do to the fact I keep doing something over and over  again and expecting the different results.

I don’t know and that isn’t the point. I’m in a really tough position right now and just hurt I guess I have brought it upon myself and partly to blame. And as of now I’m just trying to put my best foot forward and do what is in the best interest of myself. But it is just so confusing. Like when is it enough. How do you know? I just don't understand. Bla! My mind is seriously in a whirlwind but only I can make the choice to stay or leave. Like how do you know if something is meant for you or not? It is such a werid feeling. I guess I just need to grow some balls Lindsay and go with my intuition on the situation.

Any who on another note, i went to Bloomington (Indiana University, one of the top party schools in the country) this past weekend and had a complete blast! I know I am getting a little older to be going to college parties. But dahwell. It was just what I needed and I got to see my sister. As you can see above I was quiet inebriated.

My sister had a quote on her refrigerator that said, "If you always do what you've always done you'll always get what you've always got." This is so true in my current predicament. Something has to shake.

I know this post is pretty vague but I don't know what else to say.

 My girlfriend, Maria, is moving to Dallas today. We had a little going away party/outing for her this past Friday. Here is a picture from dinner of all the girls. Maria is in the yellow. She took pictures of me last summer when she was starting her own photography business. Check them out here.

Hopefully now I will be back on track with my posts. :)

Xo

Music Monday: Lost In The World.

I'm up in the woods, I'm down on my mind
I'm building a sill to slow down the time
I'm up in the woods, I'm down on my mind
I'm building a sill to slow down the time
'm up in the woods, I'm down on my mind
I'm building a sill to slow down the time
I'm lost in the World, I'm down on my mind
I'm new in the city, and I'm down for the night
Down for the night
Said she's down for the night
Your my Devil, Your my Angel
Your my Heaven, Your my Hell
Your my Now, Your my Forever
Your my Freedom, Your my Jail
Your my Lies, Your my Truth
Your my War, Your my Truce
Your my Questions, Your my Proof
Your my Stress and your my Masseuse
Mama-say mama-say ma-ma-coo-sah
Lost in this Plastic life,
Let's Break out of this fake ass Party
Turn this in to a Classic Night
If we die in each others arms we still get laid in our Afterlife
If we die in each others arms we still get laid

I'm lost in the World, I'm down on my mind
I'm new in the city, and I'm down for the night
Down for the night
Said she's down for the night

Who will survive in America
Who will survive in America
Who will survive in America

I'm lost in the World, I'm down on my mind
I'm new in the city, and I'm down for the night
Down for the night
Said she's down for the night

Us living as we do upside down.
And the new word to have is revolution.
People don't even want to hear the preacher spill or spiel because God's whole card has been thoroughly piqued.
And America is now blood and tears instead of milk and honey.
The youngsters who were programmed to continue fucking up woke up one night digging Paul Revere and Nat Turner as the good guys.
America stripped for bed and we had not all yet closed our eyes.
The signs of Truth were tattooed across our open ended vagina.
We learned to our amazement untold tale of scandal.
Two long centuries buried in the musty vault, hosed down daily with a gagging perfume.
America was a bastard the illegitimate daughter of the mother country whose legs were then spread around the world and a rapist known as freedom, free doom.
Democracy, liberty, and justice were revolutionary code names that preceded the bubbling bubbling bubbling bubbling bubbling in the mother country's crotch

What does Webster say about soul?
All I want is a good home and a wife
And a children and some food to feed them every night.
After all is said and done build a new route to China if they'll have you.

Who will survive in America?
Who will survive in America?
Who will survive in America?
Who will survive in America?